Oversharing on Social Media

 

When you haven’t blogged or been on Twitter, what do you do? I think some would answer with a resounding, “Nothing. Move on.” Others would say that a full-on explanation is warranted. I’m guessing that most people fall somewhere in the middle.

Personally, I feel I should write something.

When sharing information about my personal life in a very public way, where is the line? Do I keep it vague or go into details? How much is too much? And, more importantly, why am I thinking about this at all? Why, in the midst of a family crisis or health emergency or computer meltdown, am I worrying about what my online presence looks like to others?

I suppose you should let people know why you haven’t been online or won’t be online much. I suppose that’s the nice/right/proper thing to do. But… Is this common courtesy or TMI (too much information)?

 

So, when I should have been getting a huge reality slap about what’s important in life, I was thinking about all the blogs I haven’t commented on, the posts I hadn’t written, the updates I hadn’t made on my website, the tweets sitting in my drafts, the emails piling up in my inbox.

For anyone who is wondering, I’m about to overshare:

I went to the ER last week expecting a little help but was admitted to the hospital. I stayed a night. Then another. Then another… The world outside those four white walls faded away. I didn’t think about much besides my family. (And all the beeping machines, wires, IVs, tests, and blood pressure cuffs.) After a day or two, it hit me. The social media thing I’ve been yammering about. And here I am posting about my hospital stay and my ongoing treatment (a.k.a. wireless heart monitor I must wear 24 hrs. a day for a month). So I will post when I’m not passing out and will tweet when I’m not too dizzy. And there you go. Hope that is not too much information for you.

Cheers, gentle readers.

Oh, also, I have a strange habit of taking pictures at unseemly moments. I like to document everything—even the horrible things. So, for your viewing pleasure, this is my EEG. It’s one of the nicer photos. I look at bit like a modern techie Medusa but I’ve titled it “space mermaid”.

 

Sarah B Hospital - EEG

 

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34 thoughts on “Oversharing on Social Media

  1. Space mermaid you look beautiful and I hope that they work it out soon and you get the treatment needed to make you better. You didn’t overshare at all — in fact I would have really started to worry when you hadn’t posted your normal Sunday thought bubble. Although it is a cyber world I still care about those I communicate with and unlike a friend that you can ring and see if they are okay when they disappear for awhile, with cyber friends you sit and worry and never know. So I thank you for sharing. If I was a non-cyber friend I’d take you around some meals for the family and help out in some way but as it is I’m sending cyber hugs and lots of love hoping that you will be well soon. 🙂 ❤

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  2. Sarah, I can’t believe that picture is you, space mermaid, yet it is strangely beautiful. I am so sorry for what you’re dealing with and hope you can return to your regularly scheduled programming soon, for your sake, not for the online world. But thank you for the TMI which is not TMI. My thoughts are with you.

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  3. Oh, dear! Hope everything will be all right. In the meantime, forget about us and try to relax and take care of yourself. We’ll all still be here a month from now. By the way, I’ve been there – heart flutters that turned into a scary hospital stay and several weeks of monitoring. Glad you took the time to go to the ER. Take care of yourself.

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  4. Oh Sarah, I hope you’re ok! My opinion is that you can’t share something and then not at least let your readers know what the heck is going on! Now, there’s a fine line between a reader wondering what’s going on and hoping that everything is OK, and then demanding more information they have no right to or that the writer doesn’t wish to share, so I’ll leave it at that, but I really hope the Drs have some answers for you and there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. I, like Irene, end up caring about the people I’ve connected with online. Sending healing vibes your way…

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    • I will know more at the end of the month (when I’m done with the heart monitor). Didn’t mean to be mysterious. I think they have narrowed it down quite a bit with all the tests so, fingers crossed, I get some solid answers. I will take all the healing vibes I can get. Thank you. ❤

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      • I wasn’t meaning that *you* were mysterious in particular – I can totally understand not knowing what’s going on and so not being able to say much about it. There seems to be a lot of people I’m in touch with who have mysterious health issues right now, myself included. I really hope they find some answers for you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  5. Meat loaf and lasagne? Has it affected your taste buds? I think anyone who has balanced on a barnacle and stared at that manically dipping and diving citrus fish knows the Shark Needs Chocolate. Dear Sarah while you do indeed look beautiful in repose it also looks like someone has just left the room for help rewiring your brain. Irene put it so well – we wonder if our fav bloggers dip out for a while, hoping it’s just life getting in the way. Please get better soon, Miss: we need you back in school making us laugh and teaching us how to write flash with depth and dimension. Blugs from Sarf Londin.

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    • Right you are. Chocolate is what is needed here. Though now I’m more on a coconut water kick. Yup. Coconut water. It really takes some getting used to but is loaded with all the electrolyte goodness I need. Um…thanks? I suppose I could use some rewiring of my brain. 😀 I am working on getting better. Thanks, Geoff.

      Hmm… “Blugs from Sarf Londin”. Is that Cockney?

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  6. How is it you can look so beautiful all wired? I look at my dying friend and think the same thing. She laughs, says we all have been dying since the day we were born! I know the sounds, the wires (Kate calls her IV stand, Charlotte’s Web). Oh, but I know the seriousness of it, too and you must miss the regularity of home life, family. Rest up, restore, regenerate and write fearlessly whatever you want to write! Big hugs to you around the wires! ❤

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    • Not sure about the beautiful part but, yes, all wired up. Thought it was one of the better-looking tests. I know the Charlotte’s web well. So Kate has a great sense of humor and wit as well as an amazing attitude. Sending love to both of you. ❤ And thank you so much for taking time to comment here. You are such a beautiful person — I am grateful to have you in my cyber life. I will certainly rest, restore, and regenerate. I also love your suggestion to write fearlessly. I promise I will do that. Thank you and big hugs back to you.

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  7. Sarah, how can you still look beautiful when you are all wired up, and I’m sure anxious for your future? I hope your health soon returns to normal and you can get on with the wonderful things you usually do, parenting your gorgeous boys and supporting all of us who are gathering here about you, urging you to recovery. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Sometimes when I drop out for a while if I have been busy or on holidays, I wonder how important it is to say (provide an excuse), but Sarah I’m so pleased you found it within you to share your reasons so that we can understand there is more to it and send you healing hugs and thoughts. I hope “they” get this sorted and you back to robust health as soon as possible. In the meantime, know that we are thinking of you and will be right here, ready and waiting (patiently) for your safe return. 🙂

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    • What’s with the beautiful thing? You all are trying to be so kind to me. 🙂 That test was more unpleasant than I thought it would be but the technician told me to lie still with eyes closed so there I am. Thank you, Norah. Thanks for being part of my supportive circle here. ❤ I so want to get back to my "normal" life. I think the doctors will get something sorted out by the end of the month.
      It is a weird online world. I mentioned in my thought bubble this week that it's a tough call whether to tell people we won't be around or give an excuse. I guess it depends on the person and how many "froggers" you have.

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      • I guess it does too, and perhaps what the reason is, and how long you’ll be gone. Like everything else, it all depends . . . But I am thankful that you shared and I look forward to good news at the end of the month. Take care.

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  8. I’m wondering the same thing as Charli, how can you be in the hospital and still look so wonderful?! You weren’t kidding about your “hospital glamor” lol.
    I do hope all is well. It has to be. Because I said so 🙂
    As far as oversharing on social media, I struggle with this non stop – To the point I end up not sharing much at all.

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    • You all are such goofballs. What’s with the glamor shot picture?! I almost didn’t post it because…hospital picture. But the wires looked so cool. It’s better than the IV pictures. 😉
      Thanks, AJ. I will tell the doctors that all will work out well because you said so. And they will listen. Because. I said so. Hey, so I’ve noticed you’re not much with the oversharing or the, um, sharing at all. Do let us know how you are, too. Hugs.

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  9. I think we all worry about odd things at moments when we probably shouldn’t be worrying about them. Your health is the most important thing though and I hope you’re okay and get well soon. When I was ill and off the internet a few years back I worried that people would think I was being rude, so I felt I had to give a small explanation. It is common courtesy, I think, but as I said, your health always comes first.

    I read The Yellow Wallpaper, by the way. thank you for the recommendation. I found in interesting, a good glimpse into the mind of an ill woman.

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    • Thank you. It’s true we find ourselves thinking about things at moments when our attention should be elsewhere–on more important things. I’ve been noticing most people do give an explanation (and apology) when they’ve been offline.

      I’m so glad you read The Yellow Wallpaper. It is a good glimpse into her mind (as well as the “treatments” of the time which is what led her to that state…)

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  10. Not too much information for me Sarah. It all sounds quite scary and I send you hugs. I do hope they can find and fix the problem soon.
    Incidentally, I think the difficulty regarding potentially oversharing is that, unless you’re part of a closed group, the information and catch up news your online friends really appreciate having will inevitably go to others who don’t know you, but it’s up to them whether or not they help themselves to your personal information.

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    • I’m glad to hear that. Thank you, Anne. It is a bit scary and, at this point, I think it can be “managed” with medication (but hoping we can manage it without). *fingers crossed*

      Yes. All is public whether that is your intent or not. It’s kind of awful but I had to laugh at your description of people “helping themselves” to your personal posts. *sigh* What a weird world we live in now…

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  13. I won’t comment about the prettiest patient I’ve seen ever. I think that’s been said already for the most part. I hope you don’t have SVT, although it is something that can be fixed with surgery. Hope you are doing well.

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    • 😀 Yes, people keep using that word. I do not think it means what they think it means.
      I have good days and bad days. Still trying to get answers and settling on meds (though I’m trying to stay off meds…). I hate this. I hope you are feeling well. Thanks, Ronovan. 🙂

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