The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck



I justΒ saw this TEDx talk by Sarah Knight: The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck

Most of you have probably seen this or at least heard of it since it’s absurdly popular.

Knight is an internationally bestselling author and this TEDx talk has been viewed millions of times. But I live under a rock of responsibilities and obligations so I missed it.

As it turns out, that is fun and ironic because I needed to hear this woman tell me (yes, she was talking to me) how I can fix my current situation.

Some of the things she talks about are similar to what we stressed-out, unhappy people have heard before but it’s presented in Knight’s own, special way. Meaning…lots of swears. Kidding. (No, I’m not. But it is intelligent, insightful, and practical, too.) She has A PLAN. A simple one that, even in the midst of misery and overwhelm, we can manage:

1. Figure out what you don’t care about.

Are you ready for the mind-blowing next step???

2. Stop caring about it.

SAY NO to those things and DO NOT FEEL GUILTY for saying it. Free up time and energy to do things that bring you joy.

JOY! πŸ™‚


I’m getting both her books. Now.

That’s the power Knight wields. (That was fun.)

Have a beautiful week, gentle readers. One full of joy.


The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck
TEDx Talk by Sarah Knight




Check out Knight’s books… (And just look at those subtitles! Don’t you want to do those things?!)

Link: The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck

how to stop spending time you don’t have
with people you don’t like
doing things you don’t want to do


Link: Get Your Sh*t Together

how to stop worrying about what you should do
so you can finish what you need to do
and start doing what you want to do


My Sunday thoughts in (slightly over) 200 words.






42 thoughts on “The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck

  1. Great stuff, Sarah. I agree! I haven’t listened to any TED talks lately. I am missing them. Means I’m not walking on my Wiifit either – need to get back into the habit. This talk sounds like a good place for me to start. Thanks

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  2. There’s also a book called “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” (that’s how the title is spelled) by Mark Manson. Also great reading. I should write a whole series of books on in this subject! πŸ™‚ I excel at not giving a f*ck a sh*t or whatever! πŸ™‚

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    • You’re my hero. πŸ˜‚ Anyone who excels at not giving a f*ck is a hero in my book. I am working on this but it’s slow-going and difficult. I thought it would be but I feel like it shouldn’t be. If that makes sense.


    • I’ll look into that one, too. I think these books will overlap, even get a bit repetitive, but if you need a kick in the arse, you need a kick in the arse. You know? Also, they’re good reminders. Thanks, Allie. πŸ™‚


    • I know! πŸ˜„ She slapped me upside the head! It was like…um, yeah. It is simple and obvious and yet…I’m NOT DOING IT. I’ve even written posts on here about saying no, not giving up your time to do things you really don’t want to, but it was like I needed to see/hear someone else say this. I don’t know. What did you think of the talk?

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      • I liked it. I told my husband about it and last night we brought up “not giving a fuck” about several things. It was great and really did feel like a relief. Ha ha. I think it’s going to our motto for awhile until it becomes second nature.

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      • I’ve been doing the same. I actually say it out loud. “No fucks given for this.” And I move on.

        I concur. It is a relief. So… Here’s to this becoming second nature.


  3. I haven’t seen the TEDx Talks, but I’m guessing those books would be up my alley. At one point in life, I thought that perhaps I shouldn’t be so apathetic, but then I realized I just didn’t care.

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    • πŸ˜‚ Awesome. Why is this so difficult for some of us? I mean, your attitude is healthy. And you are happy. And you are beloved. Upbringing? Personality? A combination? I’m just being rhetorical now… But still. I do wonder.


  4. I think that’s brilliant! But I want to know how you go from caring to suddenly not caring. I recently gave up on lots of social media and told myself I wasn’t going to feel guilty about it. It has freed up loads of time and allowed me to be more present, but I still feel guilty for not reading blogs as often, or supporting my online friends. So what do you do about that?

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    • It IS brilliant. And it’s simple. (Or, at least, it should be.) I’m having a bit of difficulty with it, honestly. I’m working on it. I expect things to change around these waters… πŸ˜‰

      I feel like it should be easier than it is. Just…stop. Stop giving your time and energy to things that you don’t care about. In my case, it’s giving time and energy I don’t have to things I feel I “should” do or that I feel obligated to do or that I feel guilty about. If you watch the talk, it’s around the 9 minute mark that hits me. I am living my life ruled by negative emotions: guilt and obligation. It is killing me.

      How do you do it? I’m not sure. But, for me, it’s going to be a process. And I’ve started by making a list of things I don’t give a f*ck about. Then, yes, I have to actually stop giving a f*ck.

      I am SO happy to hear you’ve freed up time (without guilt!) by giving up a bit of online stuff. I don’t know about the blogging thing but I will say this, lovely lady. Although I love seeing you here, if you never show up here again, swim with the shark, leave a comment… I would never think you don’t support me. I would never be upset about that. And I hope you would NEVER feel guilty for it. So check Lemon Shark off your list. And, I’m guessing, your real friends, the ones who know you, who understand that you have a life outside of blogging, who know you support them, won’t care either. The rest… Don’t give a f*ck! ❀ πŸ™‚


      • Thank you. But I will always be around, I’d miss all my lovely blogging friends too much! But it is hard to do. Shame we’re all so far apart. Sigh.

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      • If you *want* to do it (it brings you joy) then do it. That’s the thing. If you’re doing it out of some sort of guilt or obligation…don’t. Don’t feel guilty. I guess that’s it. And it’s not sudden for some of us. For some of us, it’s going to be a process. Much love. ❀

        I'll tell you what would bring me joy… Taking a holiday to Ireland! Oh. My. Gods. Joy! πŸ™‚


    • Yes. That is it exactly. Joy… Doing laundry or hunting for agate? We need to figure out where our precious time and energy is going to be spent. Then be joyful about it. Life is too damn short to do anything else. πŸ™‚ Can’t wait to see photos of those agates!

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    • It is truly awesome. (And slightly difficult.) But, yes, I found 12 minutes to watch a Ted talk. Then another few to order her book. And I’m going to make time to read it by giving up some other things taking up my time. I’m going to give time to “self-care” because, if I don’t, I’m not going to make it. I needed this kick in the ass. I really did. πŸ™‚ ❀

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    • How wonderful would it be to spend your time and energy on things that you’ve decided you want to do instead of things you’re doing out of guilt or obligation? (Why haven’t I done this before?) And I really hope you do start. πŸ™‚ I’m trying…

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