Excuse Me While I Get My Sh*t Together

 

 

Last week I discussed the awesome TEDx talk by Sarah Knight called The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck.

This past week, I’ve started a list. Note the word “started”…there is much more where this came from. (No, it’s not a ‘To Do’ list.)

It’s a budget of sorts. In other words, I’ve decided what I do and do not give a f*ck about.

And here is what I discovered:

 

Things I Give a F*ck About

(Things I need to give more time / energy / attention to)

  • My health
  • My family’s health
  • Spending time with my family
  • Getting “me” time
  • Self care
  • Writing
  • Reading
  • Eating
  • Sleeping

Sound selfish? Good. It should. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Things I Do Not Give a F*ck About

(Things I need to give less time / energy / attention to)

  • What people think of me
  • TV shows I’m supposed to be watching because they are popular
  • People who don’t hear the word “no”
  • (Most) sports
  • Celebrities’ haircuts, dresses, shoes, handbags, relationships, pets…
  • Demands on my time and/or energy
  • Expectations about what I “should” be doing
  • Number of followers on [insert social media platform here]
  • Stats on my blog
  • What my neighbor thinks of my lawn

 

Now.

I have to stop giving a f*ck about these things in the form of time, energy, or money.

I have to stop stressing about these things.

I have to say NO to these things.

WITHOUT GUILT.

Some will be as easy as getting up, grabbing a marker, and crossing them off. *cough* Celebrities, sports, TV, blog stats… I already seriously don’t care about these things.

Others will be a difficult process of undoing who I am and recreating myself in the image of “What brings me joy.”

 

Now.

The real work begins.

 

My Sunday thoughts in (slightly over) 200 words.

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I’m going to take a bit to digest this information and attempt to free up some time and energy for the things I really want to do. The things that are important to me. The things that bring me joy.

I will probably be posting on here because this little Lemon Shark does bring me joy but I will not become obsessed with and/or stressed about what others think I should be doing. So… I’ll post when I want about what I want. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

ICYMI, here’s the talk:

 

The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck
TEDx Talk by Sarah Knight

 

And here are the books:

 


Link: The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck

how to stop spending time you don’t have
with people you don’t like
doing things you don’t want to do

 

Link: Get Your Sh*t Together

how to stop worrying about what you should do
so you can finish what you need to do
and start doing what you want to do

 

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33 thoughts on “Excuse Me While I Get My Sh*t Together

  1. I’m going to memorise your last paragraph and recite it to myself, often! Thanks for your thoughts Sarah. Have a great ‘you and yours’ day. I’m still on my very selfish/doing zilch holiday and lovin’ it…
    Juliet

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  2. I love that your lawn is on the second list. By any chance do you live in a neighborhood with restrictive covenants or busy body neighbors? I do and I assure you they care about my lawn more than I do.

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    • Yes. Neighbors. Glares, dirty looks, passive-aggressive comments… Oh, the horror of two dandelions and slightly overgrown bushes! Why do I care? I need to free up that time to take care of myself and my family. My health and happiness (and that of my family) is more important than a dandelion. And I am NOT sorry. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks, Amanda!

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  3. Getting our sh!t together and knowing what and who to give a f*& about are two of the most important things to learn and do in life. The what I should be doing is easy for me because I honestly always do what I want and pivot like an meffer. Now not focusing on other things like reviews, stats, sales, etc. is a challenge because although my job is good, it’s not what I want to be doing. It’s what I’m doing to make sure I can care for the ones I love without F’ng up. It’s frustrating to have divide my time to please everyone and all my responsibilities and somehow find the will to keep pushing but it is what it is and does offer me some liberties. By having a well paying job, that means I can write unapologetically and release what I want, when I want, and how I want. That’s no small thing. When you work in advertising, EVERYTHING you do gets edited and gets filtered. It’s not fun to put it lightly. But I look at my books and I say, that’s mine. If it’s good or not, that’s on me. It’s motivating. It’s liberating. So I keep writing whenever I can. That sometimes I’ve been silly enough to pay attention to people who aren’t worth my time and stretched myself thin just so everyone is happy are things I’m always working on. Some days/weeks I do better at ignoring what doesn’t matter while other days I have to remind myself of the last time I punched a wall to find a better way to express feelings and use energy. It is a working progress… but so am I and so is life. ๐Ÿ™‚ Cheers to you and here’s to crossing and tossing the crappy list and focusing on what does matter ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    • These are, my friend, without a doubt two of the most important things we need to learn and do. I’ve known for a long time my priorities are messed up and this book seemed to be the answer. Yet. I’m having a very difficult time with it, to be honest. I give way too much of my time and energy to people and things I don’t want to be spending my time and energy on. I’m always stretching myself too thin. Why? Guilt. Obligation. And I am MISERABLE.

      I love that your writing gives you this motivation and is liberating. I love that you’ve found something you love spending time and energy on. And are doing it. โค

      Yes, let's get rid of the crap and focus on what matters. Yay! So…how do I do that? ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      • Indeed we do. My issues are that I juggle and jump through hoops so everyone is happy. I really wish I didnโ€™t need the dayjob, but alas, I REALLY do. I know all too well about guilt and obligation and how you take one bit of time for yourself and it seems as if youโ€™re God awful for thinking about yourself. (SINNNNNN)

        In my writing I can use all I live to create and I adore it. I just wish I had more time to do it and that it wasnโ€™t an issue to do it, but actually a good thing. As for focusing on what matters, a good example is how I cope with some โ€œfriendsโ€. If they have quotations, itโ€™s really questionable how good of friends they really areโ€ฆ and by not investing time in them, I have more time for my stuff. Itโ€™s hard to do but the moment you do it once and you realize that youโ€™re not sorely needed or even missed, itโ€™s easier to keep not spending time on them and instead on people who with just a little bit of attention make all the difference.

        I will be writing about this when this week allows me to lol. But rest assured, the to do list and some other recommendations are in tow. Wishing you absolutely the best and always happy to invest time in you and your writing, for the only quotation marks related to you, are in the blog posts and stories you writeโ€ฆ and I like that a lot. ๐Ÿ˜€

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    • That’s the beauty of these lists. Everyone’s will be different. (Although I’m not surprised ours is similar.) And…here’s the real beauty of it… NO ONE has to give a f*ck what is or is not on anyone else’s list! ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s wonderful! *happy dance*

      P.S. Confession: I’ve never seen The Bachelorette and don’t plan to ever watch it.

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    • Yes, well. Yay me if I actually do this. I’m trying. It’s much-needed and long-overdue. Jump on. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks, Debby.

      It’s been more difficult than I thought. But, at the end of the day, I’ve got to look at my life and my kids and know that I put my time and energy where it belongs. โค

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  4. I think this is a wonderful thing to do. Challenging, but rewarding to not give a f*ck. ๐Ÿ™‚ I stopped watching TV a while ago, because it was taking up time that I would rather spend reading/writing. I don’t care about the TV, so why should I watch it just so I know what other people are talking about?

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  5. Good luck with this, Sarah, both your lists made me smile.
    As I stand at my computer, I often notice passers-by staring at the grass in front of our house. It might be in admiration, but more likely itโ€™s disapproval, as I donโ€™t think the meadow has yet caught on here. But we think itโ€™s nice to look at and great for insects.
    In my experience, it gets easier to stick to your own preferences with age. Hang on in there!

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  6. Yaaay! This is such a positive step! Well done, lovely lady. I never made an official list as such, but I also started down this route by cutting out the things which were creating pressure in my life that I didn’t need. At first it left me with terrible guilt, but not anymore… it’s actually quite liberating. Although I still have a long way to go, but it’s all good. It’s 8 days since you wrote this, how’s it going so far? Btw your neighbours sound awful, I hope there are some lovely ones too. I love plants best when left to Mother Nature’s gardening… wild and free and joyful because of it. Let it go and let it grow, I say! ๐Ÿคฃ Hugs to you, Sarah! I feel so strongly that I want to meet you one day. Xxx

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  7. Is it odd that I feel guilty over not having guilt?

    I hope letting go of all the crap starts to get easier for you. That guilt switch isn’t something you can just flick off and stop feeling. But maybe, after a while of saying no, you’ll finally get some relief in that life of yours. ๐Ÿ™‚

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