Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t

 

 

Do what you feel in your heart to be right — for you’ll be criticized anyway.

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

Truer words were never spoken.

Or perhaps they were. Regardless, these are up there in the top ten of How to Live Your Life.

Eleanor goes on to say that “you’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.” Hot damn! She’s right.

You can never please everyone. Let me just go ahead and say that again. You can never. Please. Everyone.

Stop trying.

I’m speaking to myself, of course, as I often always do on this blog but I believe these words fiercely.

I know I’m a good person so why don’t I just do what I feel in my heart to be right?

Worrying what others might think or how they may perceive what I do (or don’t do) is a terrible way to live. How people choose to see me is not in my control. (And really not my problem. Unless I make it my problem. Which we’ve just established it’s not.)

The bottom line here is that, yes, you’ll be damned if you do, damned if you don’t. So…

Do what you want. Dammit.

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My Sunday thoughts in 200 words or less.

 

Have a lovely week, gentle readers!

 

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31 thoughts on “Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t

  1. Intensely true words and people get to the point where they demand more and more from you. It’s unfair but to the eyes of the judger, it’s almost a surprise when you do your own thing. I work hard to make everyone happy and that often means leaving my stuff further down on the list. I still get my things done but sometimes I wouldn’t mind it being easier to get there. Cheers and here’s to instead a damn good time

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    • Intensely true. Yes! And holy crap, yes, to those people who are surprised and/or offended when you do your own thing. It’s like… I have no words. So wrong. I’m a people-pleaser, too, but I hope to one day put “REFORMED PEOPLE-PLEASER” in my bio on Twitter. 🙂 No more putting myself and my needs last. *fingers crossed* Cheers to a damn good time! 🍺

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  2. Although you speak to yourself Sarah I can absolutely relate to what you are saying and I’m sure others can too. I’m in a bit of a “Should I? Shouldn’t I?” writing situation today and your words have helped. I’m just going to do what I damn well want! Not quite sure yet what that is, however…but I’ll keep thinking. Thanks for making me think. Juliet

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  3. Eleanor Roosevelt was wise beyond words. One of my favorite of her quotes is, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

    Words to live by! 🙂

    PS: I’m reading your book. I love your flash fiction. I’ll vlog about that at some point.

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  4. Yup. I read the book “The Four Agreements” years ago and the 2nd agreement is basically “don’t take things personally.” It explains that people’s opinions say more about them than they say about others, and same with our opinions – they are reflections of our understandings, our biases, and personal journeys. The 4th agreement is “always do your best.” If we make every effort to do our best, to be kind, genuine, honest, and compassionate, that about as good as it gets. – My opinion, of course. Ha ha.

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  5. I struggle greatly with being a people pleaser. On the social circuit. At my job. With my writing. I want people to like me so badly. I want to be accepted. I get paralyzed by the thought of rejection. And as much as I know it will happen, that doesn’t stop me from preventing it.

    I think if I fully lived my this mantra, my life would be so much easier. I would approach life with more confidence. I think I would gain more friends because they would see how genuine I can be.

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    • This comment makes me so sad. Truly. I’m a people-pleaser, too, and I hate it. I’m trying to change that. I think it’s difficult for people who aren’t this way to understand how much of a challenge it is. But I do believe it’s damaging and I do believe we can change. I agree with you about life being easier if we lived this way. Not sometimes but all the time. That’s my aim, anyway. Doing what I feel in my heart is right REGARDLESS of what others think. Here’s to life getting easier. 🙂

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